MARQUIS AMERICA recommends Fetish Parties within the US and globally. The contribution from Mistress Sophie below gives a good introduction on how to go about joining a fetish party and get involved. In the MARQUIS MAGAZINE you will find party updates and announcements of upcoming parties as well. The Number 1 Fetish Magazine!
Recently, Iâ€™ve been getting a lot of questions about how to explore the fetish lifestyle and approaching fem doms. So, take to your desks, students – here are the answers.Â If youâ€™ve never been to a public play party, but always wanted to go, the idea of walking into a club dressed in your best unused fetish gear probably fills you with excitement and nervousness. Relax, itâ€™s not that hard. The safest way to participate in the world of kink is to attend your local munch, and then the public play party. I recommend the Tampa Munch and the Fetish Circuit play party (scheduled for this Saturday afternoon and evening, respectively).
Last month I spent some time discussing the benefits of munches: safety, education, real life interactions, discretion, and stress-free socializing with like-minded individuals.Â If you want to go to your first fetish party, make the Tampa munch. Ask around, and introduce yourself to Edwin or Kimmie, the host and hostess. Let them know that youâ€™re new, and thinking of attending the Fetish Circuit play party later that night. Both of them are friendly, gregarious people, who really enjoy their roles as newbie liaisons. If they canâ€™t answer your questions, you probably donâ€™t need to know the answers.
But weâ€™re here to discuss the play party. Edwin describes it as â€œan adult lifestyle play party hosted in a night club environment – the kind of place where a single woman can attend and introduce herself to me or my partner, Kimmie, and we can keep an eye on her, make sure that she gets to meet good people with similar interests.â€ In short, Fetish Circuit is the best public play party in town. Park in the south garage and strut the block and a half to the Honey Pot. The club boasts $50,000 in light and sound equipment, and a full bar. Once a month, Edwin brings in kink furniture, DJ Jeff (of Parthenon, Castle, and various lifestyle events), and a phenomenal security/dungeon monitor crew. Big J, Mr. T, Maxx, Motley and Edwin all have years of security and lifestyle experience.Â They are exactly the kind of generous and qualified staff I like to see at events (and I often do, Edwin and his crew work events like FetishCon and other lifestyle conventions). If youâ€™re at the party and have any questions, just look for the people walking around in grey shirts with epaulets. Theyâ€™ll be more than happy to assist you.
All you need to bring with you, according to Edwin, is the $10 door fee, a photo ID (18 and up), and respect. Fetish attire is requested, though not required. You donâ€™t need to bring toys or a play partner. I suggest just socializing and observing the first night. Maybe do a bit of shopping – thatâ€™s right, shopping. In addition to the sights and sounds, Fetish Circuit hosts a number of kinky vendors selling varied and changing inventory like floggers, restraints, paddles, and sometimes even clothing (a note to tailors and seamstresses – the fem dom community is sorely under served in this capacity – we need custom clothing).
One of the reasons I recommend the Fetish Circuit is that it has something for everyone: male or female; dom or sub; gay or het (even queer!); experienced or novice. While not as rigid in its dress code as other public play parties, the Circuit still draws some tasty, kinky eye candy. No nudity allowed, but lots of boy shorts and electrical tape pasties, as well as leather, latex, frilly skirts, and goth refinement. And the play! The main reason FC stands head-and-shoulders above other local public venues is because it reliably yields amazing scenes. Itâ€™s a bit like a Byzantine maze, you never know what youâ€™ll find when you turn the next corner. It could be dramatic fire play, or soft flesh corseted with staples and thread, intricate and sensual flogging, a light impromptu tickling scene, or submissives wholly absorbed in high-protocol service.
There isnâ€™t any pressure to play. Voyeurism is a key component of consensual exhibitionism. FC is the kind of party where one can observe people enjoying themselves in a way that validates individual interests and pursuits. According to Edwin, â€œWe might be a minority, but weâ€™re not abnormal.â€ I have to agree.
Fem doms, rejoice. Not only are there a plethora of male subs, but there are a cadre of intelligent, funny, and powerful women with whom you can socialize. Dying for a conversation that doesnâ€™t involve children, taxes, or television? Chat with a dom and you just might find yourself knee-deep in a fascinating discussion of sexual politics and the gendered dynamics of power exchange.
Male subs, take heart. If youâ€™re feeling frisky, and want to approach a dom, do your homework. The best way to meet that bewitching vixen of your nightmares is to have someone introduce you to her. If you followed my advice thus far, simply ask the people you met at the munch who she is. After you learn a little bit about her (like her name), ask if it would be possible to get an introduction. Sometimes itâ€™s not an option. She may be, unbeknownst to you, engaged in a night-long scene. As disappointing as it may seem, itâ€™s better than interrupting her. A first impression is a terrible thing to waste.
So be brave, newbie kinksters! Prepare and advance! And when you do attend the party, tell them Mistress Sophie sends her regards.